Today I turn 33. Birthdays have always been big in our family but for some reason this one feels particularly momentous. Perhaps it's because it's my first birthday as a mother, or because 33 seems like you are settling into adulthood. Whatever the reason, I've spent much of the month thinking about what I'd like to accomplish in my 33rd year.
I've never been one for new year's resolutions, instead I focus on birthday goals because that's really when my new year starts. As a seasoned goal setter, I know I have to write them down and put them in a place where I see them every day. This year, I am also adding a one-sentence intention for each goal that I'll say aloud in the morning. This will help me start my day focused on how each day counts as a step toward or away from goal.
I have many work goals as well, but for my personal goals, I've made a list of things that I think adults do. This short list includes items that I'll be working towards this year, which are more lifestyle changes. These won't be just achieved and then done, they'll be things which will help me for the rest of my life.
1. Adults have a skincare routine. Okay, of course, I use things on my skin, but at 33, it's time to get serious. I am using this article as my guide. I've purchased a better face wash, a retinol, and a better moisturizer. I'll continue using my beloved Estee Lauder Advanced Night Repair at night too. This includes finding my perfect makeup and hair products as well. I usually buy something new every time and this will help simplify and streamline my life for the better.
2. Adults have a fitness routine. Yes, I work out. Yes, I love to run. But with Rocky on the scene, it's harder and harder to work out after work. It's time to become a routine morning fitness enthusiast. 6 am. Three times a week. No excuses. It's for my mental health even more than my waistline.
3. Adults take care of themselves. See 1 and 2. But also, I've been in pain when I walk for approximately 10 months. There's no excuse, so I've finally gone to a podiatrist. I've gotten inserts for my shoes (hello, 33) and I purchased much better running shoes. Side note: I went to Fleet Feet in Des Moines and they did this amazing scan on my feet to show me which shoes would fit me best. Basically, if I'm having an issue in the future, I'll take care of it.
4. Adults have a signature dish. I'm not a great cook. I don't like it and Nick does, so I don't even have an incentive to learn. However, I'd love for Rocky, someday, when he's grown up and moved away, crave something I make just for him. So, I'm going to learn a signature dish this year. When I'm invited to a potluck, I'll have one dish in each category that I can do really well. Right now I have a banana pudding that's pretty good. Next I'm thinking handmade noodles for my entree?
5. Adults do things for themselves. Of course, this gets harder as a mother of a 5 month old but it's important to take time for myself. I want to lead a guilt-free life and I am going to do my best to not feel guilty about doing things just for me from time to time. No one makes me feel that way but myself.
See what I mean? Lifestyle changes. As my friend Jonathan said at lunch this week, "Maybe just pick one? That's a lot." But that's also kind of the point. I am settling into adulthood at 33 and I'm going to create the life I want to live and that takes a big effort. These are the best birthday presents I can give myself.